How do I start dating?
I AM STARTING A RELATIONSHIP
Dr. Simeon Olaomo
2 min read
Let's set the record straight friends, we all are social beings and we need to start a friendly and intimate relationship somewhere somehow. I am glad you are thinking about it and if you are reading this post it means you want to get it right. It may also be that someone shared this post with you, however it comes, be rest assured that God wants you to get things right in your new beginning.
The purpose of dating is set forth in 1) exploring mutual interests of both parties and see if there is a connection and a possibility of romantic relationship 2) exploring social connections 3) compatibility exercises 4) measuring progress and making a decision whether to commit or not. Dating is man made procedure to getting a romantic relationship started. While this works for millions and millions of people, it begs the question if romantic relationships are same with life commitment and purpose attainment. If romantic relationship is the only criteria for your relationship, can you really depend on your foundation?
On the radiant side, we learned from Jesus that He is the author and finisher of our faith. Our relationship as followers of Christ does not begin with romantic infatuation, rather it starts with understanding the purpose of God for our personal life where we understand the importance of knowing God for ourselves, and trusting God to orchestrate our steps, guiding us and revealing to us who He has provided to do life's purpose with us. This is the foundation, that kicks off friendship, courtship, commitment, and marriage.
I hope you see the difference, so you don't need a date first, you need revelation of personal purpose, then you need divinely orchestrated provision based on purpose. At this stage, you are not going out to guess, test, or manipulate. When you step out, you are stepping out in to a proposition of something definite, already provisioned, and then confirmation and reaffirmation of what you have received in the place of personal relationship with God. See if you do it right, alignment becomes easier, communication is easier, sharing is fluent, and secrets are readily exposed because you are with purpose connection.
If all you know about dating is based on random selection on a dating app, meeting in occasion or at a bar or human reference and it is based on human body shapes and looks, you will soon find out that those things will fade away and reality will soon set in. Don't be the jack of all guys and gals!
How many Date should I be a part of?
if you follow the above step, all you need is one date that is driven by purpose, and the rest should fall in place if both parties come with a purpose and divine leading. However, you as a carrier of purpose should be extra vigilant because those who are satan's are cunning in their generation. You however should surrender to God and be guided by God, you cannot compromise, or be impatient, rushing to get into a relationship by all means. If this happens, "the like a roaring lion", the fake, the unbroken are always alert because they don't have any God over them and their looseness sense your gullibility and impatience to take undue advantage of you. My advice is for you to stay put until God speaks, once has He spoken, did you hear him twice? (Psalm 62:11). That is how you start a great relationship my friends.